lol i did want to indicate somewhere that memory is absolutely fundamental to my conception of romance but its more like a theme than a specific dynamic... like i guess its what underpins my interest in shared history / legacy / debt etc etc

feel free to keep elaborating here if you like!! or if you save it for your own post i will gladly read... i love to discuss shippings... ctfu i love how on paper our interests seem really similar but diverge wildly in practice every time HAHA i do love ambiguity/ambivalence tho id categorise more under haterism or not knowing e/o.. but also what i enjoy out of power dynamics is the maintenance of the hierarchy whereas i think you enjoy more the destabilisation and subversion aspects. all the enemies dynamics do have an invisible To Lovers appended to the end its just that like that doesnt mean that theyre in love or like do anything or otherwise not be enemies.. words dont have to mean things.. i really like absences as much as presences which is a great hack to not needing canon interax for my ships dkjfgkdsfjg i feel like ive gotten super lucky mostly tho i always end up getting canon interax for my narrativeshippings and not knowing e/o shippings anyway

i have read ancillary justice!! wrote an essay on it back in high school english so i kind of dont remember shit about the dynamix since i was reading with my school brain and not my fan brain.. but i never got around to reading the rest of the series anyway so maybe ill give it another shot with this in mind🤔